Love and all it's randomness

Someone's blog that I read was talking about love and the search for it- and a reason for betterment, etc. Below is my response, I figured it is something we all wonder about and of course, I have something to say about it
Love- it's something people want to put in a box. Set guidelines, principles, ideas, timelines—it should be wrapped up in some neat little package so that we know what it is, when it happens, how it happened and what do to when it happens. We are seldom looking to the other side –what happens when we open that box and it is the wrong package—maybe not meant for us? Or given at the wrong time, or given for the wrong reason. You can't give it back. How simple life would be if love were like that gift you get and you can recycle it and give it to someone else or get a refund. Unfortunately, it don't work like that.So. Philosophically speaking… I prefer eros. It's the "love" of soul mates, passion, sexual desire and intense attraction. It sort of covers it all. The only downside to eros is some people don't think it is as lasting as Philia. The thing is, I don't think the different types of eros figured into that definition that the philosophers set up so long ago. I mean, I know I can feel passionately about so many things. Things and people. Either you love or you don't. For me, it's always full throttle. With Philia it's a half way. Why would you love someone a little bit? I call that "like".People like to think that there is only one soul mate. I don't believe that. I do believe there is that one great love of your life for each dimension of your life, with any luck it's the same person in each dimension, but I think to be that lucky you must "wait" to love until you are much more experienced (read- older) in eros, and who wants to do that? How can you live a long life without loving anything or anyone? Is not going to happen my friend. It's accidentally coincidental and we have no control over it. It's that whole fate/karma/meant to happen thing that greeting cards are made of!The love that you experience up until that point (of finding "the one") is a passionate ride (no pun intended) until you get to your destination. All those in betweens teach us to accept, appreciate and cultivate the ability that we have to give our brand of love to someone else. Let me emphatically say there IS true love. There is true love for everything and everyone under the sun (believe me, I see it on a daily basis at Social Services and it ain't always pretty—but I do know it is there!). The reason to better yourself, is the truelove that you have for your own self. It's there or you could not have made it this far in life, successfully, and apparently well cultivated –waiting for the one. Don't stop believing because it's there ---its all around you.